I'm new and I find that I sometimes ask a question, get the answer that I actually want, but then I continue to ask to confirm myself. At first it will confirm by telling me the same thing in a different way, and then it starts actually giving me contradictory answers from my first reading.
I know that I shouldn't be over-asking and I need to work on that. But when I overdo it and end up asking too many times should I just trust the first reading?
Also, I'm sure I'm not the only one who does this - how do others keep themselves in check?
1. Remembering that without a deep change in circumstances your first reading on the matter is still valid, still developing and trying to find for it being accurate or not in every day life. Be your own feedback.
2. Learning and getting good has a lot to do with the quality of your readings. So with the feedback of point 1. examine and re-examine your reading, the same reading to add flesh to its meaning until it's a structured and cohesive story.
3. Avoiding asking about the same things by doing daily draws for small matters and putting in them all the care and concentration you can. Like "what should I do today to evolve into a better human".
4. Realizing we ask the tarot to have some insight into what is happening in our reality and avoiding to pay attention to reality by asking obsessively the tarot is at least a paradox. Reality is there, tarot gave you a few clues, now look at it.
5. When we ask the first time the situation we are asking about is fresh in our minds as what we've perceived in reality. But in following reading what is fresh in our minds isn't reality, at least not entirely. It's mixed with what we thought the tarot told us. This, with every consecutive reading, gets farther and farther away from the truth like a story changes from mouth to mouth; the first is probably the closest to the truth but then our embellishments make it almost a work of fiction.
Things like that. As you can tell I was an avid over-reader when I first started.
Mainly this is what kept me from it:
Reading past the first aren't worth very much at all.