Oh I feel humbled and grateful for the amazing response I have gotten from everybody that has posted. I am always amazed at how intuitive and sharp people on this forum are, cutting to the core of the issue straight away.
jmd, thank you for pointing out the difference between a type of reading being ethical or not, and the importance of listening to your intuition and gut feeling. You are so right, I just needed somebody to tell me that. And thank you for also taking that advice one step further and examining the possibility of me perhaps needing to be more of a friend to my friend in this situation, than some sort of professional outside counsellor. I don´t think being a counsellor to my friend is right right now. I want to be her friend and her companion and walk every step of the way by her side, but I cannot be as neutral and collected as an outsider would be.
WalesWoman, thank you for sharing your personal experiences also, like Lyric. My condolences on your painful loss. You and Lyric have already walked this path that my friend has ahead of her now, and for that I want to express my deepest respect to you. It is true that suicide can be a brutal form of punishment, and I guess that is what makes such losses especially difficult to bear. You are left with questions that will never find absolute answers, and any vague answers you can find only give birth to new questions it seems. Thank you for pointing out that my friend needs professional counselling at this stage. I feel strengthened by hearing about your experience and I want to thank your father and Lyric´s husband also, for indirectly helping me and my friend in our process in time.
peace_pixie, thank you for adding your professional perspective to this question. You reinforce that my role in this should be that of a friend, not a medium, tarot-reader or counsellor, and that I should listen to my intuition.
Thank you to all of you for helping me be a better friend to my friend.