Her Top 3 likes and dislikes about me

[helloitsme]

Things are not going well with my gf, and I thought maybe I could get a better understanding of things with this draw:

Top 3 things she likes about me:
-Knight of Swords - I have a tendency to just charge into things and get them done instead of waiting around.
-5 cups - Maybe that I realize my mistakes when I make them...
-2 pentacles - I have been juggling her with my career right now, maybe she finds it attractive that I have a couple different things going on.

Her dislikes:
-Knight of Cups - this one confused me a bit, but I thought maybe it means she thinks I can be too sappy with her sometimes.
-Hermit - I am not good in groups, and I am quiet and isolated a lot of times when we hang out with her friends. We had a fight about this last Monday and I am trying to change and put myself out there more.
-4 Wands - MAybe, going hand in hand with the Knight of Cups, she thinks I am being a little too serious in this relationship and that I want to bring it somewhere more serious


The shadow was the Knight Pentacles, which I get a lot in readings with her and I see it as our relationship slowly developing, ever moving forward

As usual, I'm probably way too close to this to read it properly and unbiased, I would love to hear anyone else's thoughts on it.

 

[CosmicBeing]

Things are not going well with my gf, and I thought maybe I could get a better understanding of things with this draw:

Top 3 things she likes about me:
-Knight of Swords - I have a tendency to just charge into things and get them done instead of waiting around.
-5 cups - Maybe that I realize my mistakes when I make them...
-2 pentacles - I have been juggling her with my career right now, maybe she finds it attractive that I have a couple different things going on.

Her dislikes:
-Knight of Cups - this one confused me a bit, but I thought maybe it means she thinks I can be too sappy with her sometimes.
-Hermit - I am not good in groups, and I am quiet and isolated a lot of times when we hang out with her friends. We had a fight about this last Monday and I am trying to change and put myself out there more.
-4 Wands - MAybe, going hand in hand with the Knight of Cups, she thinks I am being a little too serious in this relationship and that I want to bring it somewhere more serious


The shadow was the Knight Pentacles, which I get a lot in readings with her and I see it as our relationship slowly developing, ever moving forward

As usual, I'm probably way too close to this to read it properly and unbiased, I would love to hear anyone else's thoughts on it.

knight of cups I could see as actions (knights) that are emotional (cups)....if you are the type to show your emotions (which is good never think it is bad...better for people to know how you feel.) But it may be she isn't use to someone showing such love through their actions. So I wouldn't say she dislikes it...she is just not use to it.
(if I am even correct that you do active signs of love/care...maybe cut back on it and over time increase it so she can adjust to it.)

Hermit...well I think you are right. If she has pointed out how you are I suppose a loner. It might be something she doesn't particularly like. I think it's kind of you to step out of your comfort zone to help better to relate to her (if she is a social butterfly type.)

4 of wands....Maybe she thinks you are trying to make an ideal home life..love story. I still don't think this is truly bad...she may just not be use to this type of behavior in her relationship history. The usual image is of a couple holding hands with a rainbow and a home in the background. (I even think some images might have children and dogs/cats in the background.) Maybe she also feels it is too early...since the knight of pentacle is the shadow..it may show someone who likes to takes things slow and really assess a situation before fully emotionally putting themselves into the relationship.

Knight of swords... I would say that maybe she likes that you are spontaneous. Also with this card I usually see it as someone who walks their talk. What they say they will do is what they will do with no hesitation.

5 of cups.....maybe that you are able to easily identify the hiccups in a situation (disappoints and such.) You don't stick your head in the sand and act like everything is okay nor do you ignore any pressing issues.

2 of pentacles I would pretty much agree... you are balance and able to handling various situations in your life.

 

[helloitsme]

@CosmicBeing:

Yes, I am the type to show my emotions, for sure. I tell her if I think she does something sweet, I've brought her flowers a couple times in the past, and if I don't like something, I also tell her. Maybe you are right, and she is just not used to it.

I know she doesn't like my loner-ness, and I do want to improve that aspect of my life anyway. So I can at least just take it as practice. I am an only child after all.

I think you are right on 4 of wands, she just may feel it is too early.

I am spontaneous, and I also try very hard to be a man of my word. I pride myself that I do what I say I will, when I say I will.

For 5 of cups, I think it ties into what I was saying earlier about the Knight of Cups, I will definitely say if I feel something is off, and try to figure out a solution if we can.


I appreciate the in-depth answer!

 

[headincloud]

Top 3 things she likes about me:
Knight of Swords - 5 cups - 2 pentacles

This seems to point at a situation of conflict in the knight or likely the argument around juggling multiple obligations. You may be feeling regret or self blame and possibly a bit deflated, perhaps unstable too in 5C. Stress in KS and 2P, are you running around like a headless chicken with the pressure of this relationship perhaps??

dislikes:
-Knight of Cups - proposals, declaring intentions, making a move. Possibly at worst qualities of over the top or a bit too idealistic. A peace maker.
-Hermit - As you said: 'not good in groups, quiet and isolated a lot of times when we hang out with her friends. We had a fight about this last Monday and I am trying to change and put myself out there more'. And perhaps she's not a home bird and prefers to socialise.
-4 Wands - Ties in to the knight, the intentions towards putting down roots or setting up home together etc, she doesn't want this. Stability.

 

[CosmicBeing]

@CosmicBeing:

Yes, I am the type to show my emotions, for sure. I tell her if I think she does something sweet, I've brought her flowers a couple times in the past, and if I don't like something, I also tell her. Maybe you are right, and she is just not used to it.

I know she doesn't like my loner-ness, and I do want to improve that aspect of my life anyway. So I can at least just take it as practice. I am an only child after all.

I think you are right on 4 of wands, she just may feel it is too early.

I am spontaneous, and I also try very hard to be a man of my word. I pride myself that I do what I say I will, when I say I will.

For 5 of cups, I think it ties into what I was saying earlier about the Knight of Cups, I will definitely say if I feel something is off, and try to figure out a solution if we can.


I appreciate the in-depth answer!

You sound like a good person with good morality. Still be yourself in small dosages so she can adjust to you as a person and how you approach relationships.

Happy my translations hit home too.

Thank you for the feedback.

 

[Saskia]

Things are not going well with my gf, and I thought maybe I could get a better understanding of things with this draw:

Top 3 things she likes about me:
-Knight of Swords
-5 cups
-2 pentacles

Her dislikes:
-Knight of Cups
-Hermit
-4 Wands

Hi Hello, firstly, it's very mature to explore the situation like this, congrats for being on that level. Not nearly everyone is - but tends to blame the other person of everything.

The Likes:
- you are direct, straightforward, don't mince words, have a sharp mind (KnoS)
- you bounce back from disappointments and are able to treat it as something temporary, not the end of the world. Also, you express your negative feelings and don't pent them up. (5C).
- you two have a healthy relationship in terms of no co-dependency but you do your own things. It's good to be able to be independent individuals also in a relationship (2P).

The Dislikes:
- are you over-emotional at times? She might find your romantic gestures or open (public?) displays of emotions awkward or difficult to receive. (KnoC). Alternatively, are you awkward or dismissive when she tries to be romantic?
- Do you have a tendency to ponder things on your own and withdraw when you're upset or need things resolved? She might wish for more teamwork and cooperation, not quiet sulking or silent contemplation.
- Are you pressuring you two to move in together, or do you think you should get engaged/married etc. soon? She might think you're taking things too seriously too soon, or you two have plateaued too early - this is not the end point of your relationship, it can change, evolve and turn better (4W).

I hope this helps!

 

[helloitsme]

@headincloud: I'm not sure what your interpretation of the 'likes' category is, unless you say that she likes that I feel pressure or regret?

@CosmicBeing: Thanks, I'm trying. Just have to slowly roll it out, I suppose. Thanks again for your input!

@Saskia: I'm definitely not awkward or dismissive about her emotions. But I can definitely see her thinking I'm taking things to fast, and I think that is probably the main issue. I don't sulk, as regards to the Hermit, I think that really just has to do with me withdrawing during group situations because we had a fight about that on Monday night.

 

[headincloud]

I'm not saying that but the cards seem to be, but I could be wrong of course. Tbh I've no idea why or how those cards could come up in that position but I'm watching your posts with intrigue.

 

[helloitsme]

I'm not saying that but the cards seem to be, but I could be wrong of course. Tbh I've no idea why or how those cards could come up in that position but I'm watching your posts with intrigue.

Haha, interesting. I'm really interested in what people think it means, too!