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And I just noticed two in that post.
Yes, I'm counting written communication.
\m/ Kat
Yes, I'm counting written communication.
\m/ Kat
LOL Thanks. I'd rather not think of mine as an experiment, though, but rather a constructive activity. Which leads to . . .Debra said:So, like, good luck to you both, and I'm keeping my legs crossed that you'll find a happy conclusion to your experiments!
Yes, I thought at length about this today, and I'm rewarding myself with praise and wee treats (a good long bath with mud mask tonight) for the times I do get it right. But at its heart, "good" behaviour, or the desired behaviour, is too nebulous and ongoing to reward constantly, and impromptu to demand like training a dog. Hence, the "bad" behaviours have to be eliminated.Debra said:Rather than trying to "break" your habit, "make" a new way of being.
Thorhammer, practicing Jugorum for a full day right from the start is a big ask for most people. I think you've just discovered that the hard way. I did too. It's perfectly ok to start with a more limited practice and build up from there. You can define a set time period in which to practice your discipline. Begin with and hour if you like and expand from there.thorhammer said:EPIC fail. But not, I will say, unmitigated.
You're focusing on the wrong bit, CP. Jugorum isn't about physical punishment. It's purpose is to set up a vigilance reflex within the mind. The short sharp shock is merely a means to end, not an end in itself.Curtis Penfold said:I'm a big believer in self-control. But physically punishing yourself? Not so much.
Thankyou and thankyou. I suppose in a way, it's a bit of both, but more of the first. It's not so much about becoming more polished, as being more in control of how I express my thoughts.Debra said:Kind of two different things going on, I think.
One is actually changing a behavior that is dysfunctional or aesthetically displeasing or otherwise icky.
Using "like" as in, like, um, er, hm, a verbal tic might be an example.
Using "like" to indicate likeness, like when one uses "like" to mean "as in," is neither dysfunctional nor aesthetically displeasing. The two "likes" you used in your post were helpful for, um, communicating.
So what you've targeted--the one word--is rather broader than your actual goal, and also perhaps rather narrower, if your goal is to sound more polished in your speech (not that I've ever seen your speech as anything other than articulate!).
When you are focused and engaged in your awareness practice you are fully present in the moment. You're aware of what's going through your mind and what actions you are performing to a much higher degree than normal.thorhammer said:I still don't know what you meant when you talked about the robot
Aeon418 said:Thorhammer, practicing Jugorum for a full day right from the start is a big ask for most people. I think you've just discovered that the hard way. I did too. It's perfectly ok to start with a more limited practice and build up from there. You can define a set time period in which to practice your discipline. Begin with and hour if you like and expand from there.