Psychebleu
This is a two part inquiry - the other part which I will post in the 'Your Readings' section.
You know how you guys are always talking about building rapport? I need to learn how to do that. I said in another thread that most people go to a tarot reader expecting a 'psychic' type, that will just tell them about their life. Well, while I'm fine with a 'just the facts, ma'am' approach - I think MOST people probably expect a certain warmth. Warmth I do not possess - outside of my own home/space anyway. I am naturally quiet and I struggle as the reader and if I really want to go professional that's something I've got to work on. Communication skills. I express my thoughts clearly - but my manner is lacking. No one has said anything but I did two quick readings today at work and I noticed it. I also notice my hesitance when the answer is not as hoped for - I almost can't spit out what I know will disappoint. I'm not talking about something necessarily negative, just disappointing - today the question was about meeting a new love interest - and that wasn't happening anytime soon. I actually felt anxious after seeing the cards - not wanting to tell her that. I think I feel that way, because I tend to just spit it out, try to be clear, but I don't know how to say it in a way that is comforting; I don't want them to go away crestfallen if it's just about delay, like the reading today. Ya know, sometimes it all in how you say it and I've neglected that aspect of reading.
This is on my mind because I was asked by two new people to read their cards and they both asked how much I charged. Charge? Which has me wondering why I don't get on with it. What's holding me back? I did a reading (celtic cross spread) about it tonight - no specific question, just along the lines of "What's it about this tarot thing? How will it progress? What am I afraid of?" I think the cards were very clear, on many levels, with layers of meaning. The communication problem was made clear. I also am still having trouble deciding how to charge. Although the recent thread on pricing has given me many ideas, I'm still confused. I've thought about that plenty and am still stuck - so I thought I'd ask you all. I'd really appreciate your advice and guidance. I'm soooo glad I found this place.
You know how you guys are always talking about building rapport? I need to learn how to do that. I said in another thread that most people go to a tarot reader expecting a 'psychic' type, that will just tell them about their life. Well, while I'm fine with a 'just the facts, ma'am' approach - I think MOST people probably expect a certain warmth. Warmth I do not possess - outside of my own home/space anyway. I am naturally quiet and I struggle as the reader and if I really want to go professional that's something I've got to work on. Communication skills. I express my thoughts clearly - but my manner is lacking. No one has said anything but I did two quick readings today at work and I noticed it. I also notice my hesitance when the answer is not as hoped for - I almost can't spit out what I know will disappoint. I'm not talking about something necessarily negative, just disappointing - today the question was about meeting a new love interest - and that wasn't happening anytime soon. I actually felt anxious after seeing the cards - not wanting to tell her that. I think I feel that way, because I tend to just spit it out, try to be clear, but I don't know how to say it in a way that is comforting; I don't want them to go away crestfallen if it's just about delay, like the reading today. Ya know, sometimes it all in how you say it and I've neglected that aspect of reading.
This is on my mind because I was asked by two new people to read their cards and they both asked how much I charged. Charge? Which has me wondering why I don't get on with it. What's holding me back? I did a reading (celtic cross spread) about it tonight - no specific question, just along the lines of "What's it about this tarot thing? How will it progress? What am I afraid of?" I think the cards were very clear, on many levels, with layers of meaning. The communication problem was made clear. I also am still having trouble deciding how to charge. Although the recent thread on pricing has given me many ideas, I'm still confused. I've thought about that plenty and am still stuck - so I thought I'd ask you all. I'd really appreciate your advice and guidance. I'm soooo glad I found this place.