WaterSong
Catlin,
yes, and that's what I am starting to do.I am starting to charge for my readings.... after years of free readings, improptu readings,being put on the spot readings I finally feel comfortable enough to start charging for it.
I still do free readings for freinds and for people I see really need one and cannot pay for it, but the rest has to contribute to the cause.
It has taken me years of practice and study: I have spent money in books and decks, we all know what I am talking about.
It takes years of work to start feeling comfortable with the cards, I think it's fair to get paid for our time and effort.
After years of being put on the spot at parties, at school,at gatherings I have learnt how to set boundaries.
One thing are your friends and people that are dear to you to ask for a reading: it can also be so much fun with a girlfriend!...another thing are strangers that feel entitled to your time and just take all what they can.It has happened to me.
What bothers me is that I know those people don't care about me at all: they just want their reading and I don't function well on that level.
Like the lady described in some other post: she does not care about the people that continually answer her neverending questions: she only cares about herself and what she needs.
I have little tolerance for that type of personality, I have to say.
people that pay you for your service value it. The ones that get it for free all the time tend to take it for granted, that's something I have observed in real life.
The Tarot can be a lot of fun with the right people, it's true.
I have stopped bringing my cards with me, or if I do, I keep it quiet.
It has happened one too many times that I gave in and gave readings for then to find out that people though that I was a little "strange" after all for being "into that".
In front of you it's all smiles to get to the reading, then the page turns.
It used to make me feel sad because I always had this true passion for it and always saw it as an amazing tool.
I would open up about it, try to explain, show, tell...answer questions .So much energy wasted.
I have become a lot more selective and careful through the years, and gone more inwards.
Like I have learnt not to mix tarot with work.One of my coworkers found out I did Tarot readings and then I had the whole office on my back, including my boss.
Sorry, but that's an overstepping of boundaries.I don't think reading Tarot for my boss it's appropriate....she requested one and I did not know how to handle it.
I finally did it and she tried to find fault through it all, then started kind of making a mockery of it( whne she knew well I had told her the truth about a situation).
I guess it's all about live and learn.
Now I chose only to do readings at the metaphysical store where I go.
No more improptu readings, I don't allow anybody to use me as entertainement(or my own ego for that matters to use me) or to put me on the spot when I only want to enjoy myself.I don't feel I have anything to prove.
It's like when I was working as a counselor and people would start talking to me about poor uncle Peter that was soo depressed after his cat had run away...or about brother's Mike heavy drinking.
I am at the party to have fun myself, I am not working!!!!
The thing is that at some point we might we tempted to use Tarot as a way to relate to others, as a way to establish relationships, to be liked or admired....alarm bell...that comes from the ego and it's need to be liked...
and it has it's downfalls.
There is no easy answer and the situations are varied and complex: I just think it takes time and experience to figure out the proper balance.
And I leave it like that.....
XOXOXOXOXO
yes, and that's what I am starting to do.I am starting to charge for my readings.... after years of free readings, improptu readings,being put on the spot readings I finally feel comfortable enough to start charging for it.
I still do free readings for freinds and for people I see really need one and cannot pay for it, but the rest has to contribute to the cause.
It has taken me years of practice and study: I have spent money in books and decks, we all know what I am talking about.
It takes years of work to start feeling comfortable with the cards, I think it's fair to get paid for our time and effort.
After years of being put on the spot at parties, at school,at gatherings I have learnt how to set boundaries.
One thing are your friends and people that are dear to you to ask for a reading: it can also be so much fun with a girlfriend!...another thing are strangers that feel entitled to your time and just take all what they can.It has happened to me.
What bothers me is that I know those people don't care about me at all: they just want their reading and I don't function well on that level.
Like the lady described in some other post: she does not care about the people that continually answer her neverending questions: she only cares about herself and what she needs.
I have little tolerance for that type of personality, I have to say.
people that pay you for your service value it. The ones that get it for free all the time tend to take it for granted, that's something I have observed in real life.
The Tarot can be a lot of fun with the right people, it's true.
I have stopped bringing my cards with me, or if I do, I keep it quiet.
It has happened one too many times that I gave in and gave readings for then to find out that people though that I was a little "strange" after all for being "into that".
In front of you it's all smiles to get to the reading, then the page turns.
It used to make me feel sad because I always had this true passion for it and always saw it as an amazing tool.
I would open up about it, try to explain, show, tell...answer questions .So much energy wasted.
I have become a lot more selective and careful through the years, and gone more inwards.
Like I have learnt not to mix tarot with work.One of my coworkers found out I did Tarot readings and then I had the whole office on my back, including my boss.
Sorry, but that's an overstepping of boundaries.I don't think reading Tarot for my boss it's appropriate....she requested one and I did not know how to handle it.
I finally did it and she tried to find fault through it all, then started kind of making a mockery of it( whne she knew well I had told her the truth about a situation).
I guess it's all about live and learn.
Now I chose only to do readings at the metaphysical store where I go.
No more improptu readings, I don't allow anybody to use me as entertainement(or my own ego for that matters to use me) or to put me on the spot when I only want to enjoy myself.I don't feel I have anything to prove.
It's like when I was working as a counselor and people would start talking to me about poor uncle Peter that was soo depressed after his cat had run away...or about brother's Mike heavy drinking.
I am at the party to have fun myself, I am not working!!!!
The thing is that at some point we might we tempted to use Tarot as a way to relate to others, as a way to establish relationships, to be liked or admired....alarm bell...that comes from the ego and it's need to be liked...
and it has it's downfalls.
There is no easy answer and the situations are varied and complex: I just think it takes time and experience to figure out the proper balance.
And I leave it like that.....
XOXOXOXOXO
