prudence
Oh my goodness, I've written this twice and have lost both attempts. Maybe I'm not supposed to. Maybe I will go for the double abridged version for my third attempt.
In 2004 I wound up in my local ER with agonizing abdominal pains and intractable vomiting, as well as some other weird symptoms ( delusional, photo sensitivity, just a mess all around). After many hours of being there and all of the tests coming back inconclusive or negative for all of the obvious illnesses (appendix, gall bladder, unknown pregnancy) they finally just gave me some IV Demerol to shut me the hell up, while they continued their probing and prodding.
I recall a few times, having a nurse standing watch over my chest area, to make sure I was still breathing. She would grab my shoulders and say you need to breathe or honey you have to keep breathing ... This happened several times, though my memory is very sketchy. The last time she urged me to breathe, I again complied with her command and closed my eyes. I then proceeded to roll off the gurney, and into a river of blackness. It was a warm place, it felt better than anywhere I'd ever been. I felt a pluck before I turned to my right, off of that gurney, similar to when you fall asleep, but different. In that moment I thought, "oh I remember this, we all know how to do this but we've forgotten" I even thought for a moment about my kids and if I should just stay, then I realized they'll be okay, so I went. I had this exhilarating feeling of "I no longer need to breathe". Mind you, my physical body did not roll off of that gurney, whatever I "am" or who I am rolled off of that gurney. My soul, my spirit, I really can't say.
The rest is a super foggy memory, just bits and pieces, and I finally truly awoke in the ICU, with all kinds of wires attached to me. For quite a few weeks or months after all of this, I had this horrible depressed feeling of being trapped in this physical body, this cage or box that I was weighed down by. Those moments of being free of my physical body in the way that almost dying provides, just made being stuck in the physical world feel so heavy, so cumbersome.
I also felt so weird around other people for a long period of time. Id be at play groups for my youngest or at school with my oldest, and I'd just feel like a pretender, interacting with all of the other moms, dads and teachers. I was pretending to be like them, pretending to be occupied by the same mundane things that they were. Not that I felt enlightened in any way, I just felt that the things many of them were talking about, upset by, or mainly occupied by were not in any way important or real. The refrain constantly going through my head at the time was "how can they not see that none of this matters?? None of this matters." It was a weird and difficult time for me.
My dreams during this time were another story completely. I'll submit this post, hopefully it goes through this time. Maybe later I'll try to share some of the dreams and other odd openings that I have had due to this close call.
In 2004 I wound up in my local ER with agonizing abdominal pains and intractable vomiting, as well as some other weird symptoms ( delusional, photo sensitivity, just a mess all around). After many hours of being there and all of the tests coming back inconclusive or negative for all of the obvious illnesses (appendix, gall bladder, unknown pregnancy) they finally just gave me some IV Demerol to shut me the hell up, while they continued their probing and prodding.
I recall a few times, having a nurse standing watch over my chest area, to make sure I was still breathing. She would grab my shoulders and say you need to breathe or honey you have to keep breathing ... This happened several times, though my memory is very sketchy. The last time she urged me to breathe, I again complied with her command and closed my eyes. I then proceeded to roll off the gurney, and into a river of blackness. It was a warm place, it felt better than anywhere I'd ever been. I felt a pluck before I turned to my right, off of that gurney, similar to when you fall asleep, but different. In that moment I thought, "oh I remember this, we all know how to do this but we've forgotten" I even thought for a moment about my kids and if I should just stay, then I realized they'll be okay, so I went. I had this exhilarating feeling of "I no longer need to breathe". Mind you, my physical body did not roll off of that gurney, whatever I "am" or who I am rolled off of that gurney. My soul, my spirit, I really can't say.
The rest is a super foggy memory, just bits and pieces, and I finally truly awoke in the ICU, with all kinds of wires attached to me. For quite a few weeks or months after all of this, I had this horrible depressed feeling of being trapped in this physical body, this cage or box that I was weighed down by. Those moments of being free of my physical body in the way that almost dying provides, just made being stuck in the physical world feel so heavy, so cumbersome.
I also felt so weird around other people for a long period of time. Id be at play groups for my youngest or at school with my oldest, and I'd just feel like a pretender, interacting with all of the other moms, dads and teachers. I was pretending to be like them, pretending to be occupied by the same mundane things that they were. Not that I felt enlightened in any way, I just felt that the things many of them were talking about, upset by, or mainly occupied by were not in any way important or real. The refrain constantly going through my head at the time was "how can they not see that none of this matters?? None of this matters." It was a weird and difficult time for me.
My dreams during this time were another story completely. I'll submit this post, hopefully it goes through this time. Maybe later I'll try to share some of the dreams and other odd openings that I have had due to this close call.