Hello there Wolfswan!
I hope the synchronicity is a good omen for the relevancy of this reading!
So here goes..
For your family in general I pulled -
Success - Forgiveness - Doubt
The success card is the cornerstone of this reading which means that progress needs to be achieved in order for this lesson to be addressed and dealt with. Therefore it would seem that finding that point in which you can maintain a good relationship with your family, where you can keep the light and shadow aspects in balance is important for you to be able to do. Some of us do better by distancing ourselves (emotionally) from our families but for you, this doesn't seem to be the case. It is interesting that you have identified a key success factor for maintaining this relationship in your background information - was this said tongue in cheek or was it actually a factor in deciding to move so far away from them? I am asking this for no other reason than to highlight your alignment with your soul lessons, if it was in fact a conscious part of your decision. It is nice to hear when we are on the right path!
Lol, it was said kind of tongue in cheek but also, I have always tried to keep that distance, moving to the city when I lived in the same country as my folks, and now obviously moving to a different country! I think the best way to maintain a good relationship with them and keep the balance as you say is through distance. I'm not sure it was a factor in moving country. I think it might have played some subconscious role perhaps? Good to know I'm in alignment with my soul lesson though!
Forgiveness represents the current energy. Is there something you need to forgive your family for? Something that you need to forgive yourself for? I am not just talking about what is immediately obvious (hurt that you experienced as an adult) but what is also beneath that - the kind of hurt that maybe be carried by your inner child, in other words hurt which was initially experienced directly by you as a child or as a result of how you perceived or reacted to something as a child. Perhaps you may feel have identified this already and done a lot of work on it, but it is coming up as a stumbling block which could impede your progress.
There might be things from childhood that I am still holding onto. I didn't have the best childhood. There were issues, and I always felt less than, even though I'm now realising that I'm not 'less than' anything or anyone. I am working on forgiving a lot of things, so this makes sense.
Doubt is the final card relating to the long range lesson to be learned. When it is in relation to family in can be experienced in relation to one thing or many things most of which find there genesis in love related issues. Am I loved as much as....?... loved in spite of....?..what can I do be loved more? why am I not loved more? How can I love them more? Whatever the doubt is in your relationship with your family, its purpose is to encourage you to realise that you don't need to know all the answers. Just trust in the universe and all will be well. Doubt will impede your ability to see the signposts that are there for you and they are how the universe communicates with us.
Definitely doubts about how much I'm loved / cared for, if they love me for me, or their idea of what I should be. Trust is definitely a lesson I've been learning! So this resonates as well.
I also did a separate reading for your biological Mom and pulled the following cards -
Thanks!
Freedom - Indecision - Judgment
The first card relates to the connection being related to teaching you about the need to march to the beat of your own drum, to make your own decisions and not be guided by pressure from others. You said that you while you have no animosity towards your biological Mom that you do not want to pursue a relationship with her. If you experience pressure to do so, know that you are on your right path according to the cards.
This is so true. I definitely learned that, and have been practicing that more and more as I've grown up. I made the decision to move here despite all the negativity around me, and I know I made the right decision. Good, she tends to pressure me for a relationship, so knowing that I'm following my own intuition on not having one with her is the right thing, is reassuring.
Indecision is a currently stumbling block according to the cards which are advising you to follow your intuition irrespective of what anyone else may try to get you to do.
Finally Judgement - are there things that your biological mother has done that could easily draw judgement or in turn does she sometimes act in a judgemental manner? The purpose of this lesson is to teach you empathy and compassion and to urge you to assist that soul by whatever action or inaction is necessary.
I hope this makes sense to you and that it helps. Please do let me know..
Bluebird
Yes, some of the things she did definitely provokes a judgmental response from me, which I'm trying to work through. I think following my intuition about this situation is the best advice I could take. I really do need to work on my compassion. I think my adult self understands, but my inner child doesn't, so there is that to work through as well.
Fantastic reading, and very on point as well! Thank you!
Thank you so much!
