willowfox
starlite said:to me, cards are for insight and guidance, not definite answers.
Yes but isn't telling someone what will happen also insight and guidance, even though it can be considered as a definite answer?
starlite said:to me, cards are for insight and guidance, not definite answers.
willowfox said:Yes but isn't telling someone what will happen also insight and guidance, even though it can be considered as a definite answer?
Netzach said:If you tell someone they won't get the job, then they won't even try, so of course they won't succeed. But isn't that a self-fulfilling prophecy? Perhaps if they'd been really motivated, rather than discouraged, they'd have presented better at interview and they would have got the job.
And can you guarantee to be 100% accurate? What if you tell someone that they'll definitely get the job - and they don't. You've built their hopes up so they're even more disappointed. In addition to which, 'knowing' that they would get the job, they may not have tried as hard at the interview and that may have contributed to the lack of success.
My point of view. I don't necessarily expect you to agree with it.
starlite said:many people go to readings thinking that the reader has special powers. we don't.
willowfox said:But when I feel confident and relaxed then I will make definite predictions with my full confidence behind them.
willowfox said:Like I said before on a good day some people can indeed "see". So some people do have that "extra" ability to "see".
I have noticed that some clients are very easy to read and read for and now and again I meet a person who seems to be "closed off", like they are blocking me or something.
starlite said:however, i am not going to insist to a client (verbal or insinuation) that it's a definite. i will say that 'i feel', etc. it's how you word it, how you portray it.
starlite said:i agree with this perspective. sure, they come to want to know the future, so we pull cards to see the probability, not what will definitely happen. there is a huge difference here.
i'm sorry, but not every reader can ever guarantee that their interpretation will be 100% accurate. there are other forces at work, other than the intention and wishes of the sitter. i've had numerous readings and not ONE has EVER been 100% accurate, EVER. i keep going back because the reader did get hits on several other issues, with good evidence. in doing this work myself as both reading the tarot and mediumship, it's very easy to misinterpret information, not intentionally, of course. but, i am only human, i am not god. if i was god, i would not have incarnated on earth.
people often come for god answers, and do not really listen to see how they can affect their own outcome. i guess i take my counseling background approach of using the cards for insight. i give 'potential outcomes' that emphasize how this as only probability, where things can change, not solely based on the sitter, but other people involved. we don't know how other people are going to behave.
and one time, i got a reading and asked about whether i'd get laid-off from my job. i was told i would not. i asked if she was sure. she said she felt that i wouldn't. i got laid-off a few weeks later. this is a good example of why you should NOT give definite yes or no answers. you are not god. you really do not know FOR SURE. i understand that maybe one can be accurate almost 100% of the time, however, i sincerely doubt that every single sitter is coming back to tell you how accurate you were.
to me, cards are for insight and guidance, not definite answers.
starlite said:i just feel that giving people definite answers does not help them learn what they need to. again, you can guide and say that 'it's looking likely...' but, it's tricky territory and at some level, not ethical. sorry, this is my counselor part kicking in. a good therapist does not tell someone what to do, they help the client come to their own senses. and no, tarot reading should not replace therapy. however, unfortunately, people get readings in place of therapy. and i've seen many bad 'therapists' (readers) who have been doing this for many years.