As usual, I'm going to part with the crowd on this one and take a wild venture into the obscure (anyone surprised?)
Since you said it was a past/present/future spread, I don't see the Queen of Wands representing the other person here. All three cards are about you and what you want out of this person.
Initially, this person was appealing to you on a level where maybe you admired or looked up to them. There may have been emotional feelings you had for them, but for whatever reason, you were not acting on those feelings. Perhaps you were denying them or trying to lessen their importance.
However, lately, your feelings have changed to feelings of outright desire. The Queen of Wands, especially when reversed, talks of powerful sexuality. She ain't about romance, she's about the physical contact. So perhaps you have acted on those feelings or maybe expressed them, or perhaps you are thinking about expressing them (wands also often mean messages to me).
As a result, the future is stressful. But the stress comes from within, not from someone else. So the message here is that you have to deal with whatever feelings you have and then deal with whatever fallout talking or acting upon those feelings creates. Reality is usually less scary than our imaginations, so by getting through this you will avoid the nightmares and melodrama of the 9 of Swords.
