TinaV
Hmmm...seem to be lots of mother issues surfacing on this thread!
The mother's clearly trying to do the right thing, and as most of us know, we are all prone to make mistakes as parents. Better to try to reach out to someone who is depressed than to back off (because they're over eighteen and therefore an adult) and have a possible suicide. Might sound dramatic but the suicide stats for young men in this country at least are alarming. Maybe the question is not the best, but give the woman a break! She's concerned about someone she loves.
I suppose it's one of the skills of a tarot reader, trying to find the most constructive question for the querent's situation.
Those are my thoughts too! I can imagine it's really hard to see a loved one fall apart without being able to act on it. He has been living on his own for the past 10 years so not being "free" or "out in the world" is not the issue here. Her son has periods of emotional withdrawal. She believes that he may be gay but probably does not want to be gay because all of his male college and high school friends are either married or engaged now. He hangs out at gay bars but plays it off as "coincidental visits". Yet, he gets super excited when a gay person tries to hit on him. She wants to help him come out or at least help him accept who he is, and possibly prevent a suicide. Thank you for your reaction, JylliM!
I agree, there seems to be some projection going on. We don't know anything about this woman other than the fact that she is worried because she has noticed her son is depressed. She suspects he is gay because he frequents gay clubs. Fair enough so far.
Suddenly she's overbearing, nosy, her son is depressed only around her, she's forcing, etc. While one could make a theoretical case for a Libertarian form of parenting, I really don't know many parents who would stand by and watch their child fall apart without doing or saying something. It may not always be the perfect thing to say or do, but we have no reason to believe that the smallest slip up will send the son reeling. I would actually hope for some kind of parental intervention before it is too late because... why not?
Should she, in my opinion, talk to him about her feelings in an open and honest way? Most definitely, with or without a reading. Would a reading help? I dunno. Could it hurt? I dunno. Could it hurt to try both ways and see what works? Nope, and that's the best way, in my opinion. Why weigh everything down when simple common sense dictates simply that two people talk?
I also don't understand why a concerned parent in a situation like this is seen as intrusive, overbearing, etc. She is concerned about him. And he is not only shutting off when he is around his mother... He does that to his friends too.
To all the people that got so offended by this thread: if it turns out that he is gay but does not want to be, wouldn't it be wise for the mom to bring up the conversation in time before he harms himself? He definitely wouldn't be the first 30 year old man that would try to commit suicide over an issue like this. And I am sure some of the queer tarot readers on this forums can relate to this (conservative family, hometown, community, not wanting to accept your feelings, fear of your macho coworkers making fun of you, etc...)
Thank you for your reaction, Zephyros. I completely agree with you!