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GryffinSong said:For me, this issue isn't about tarot at all. It's about red flags. There are two huge red flags in this for me.
1. That he would make such demands with no discussion. He's the boss, his way goes. That kind of controlling behavior raises flags for me. I've known too many people in abusive relationships. Demands like this often lead to worse down the road.
2. That she felt compelled to lie about it. This tells me that the relationship isn't built on trust. If she trusted him, if he was worthy of trust, they'd be able to talk about it.
It doesn't matter that its tarot. It could be about wearing blue socks for all it matters. It's about control and deception and the warning signs that flair about the health of this relationship.
This is completely it.
I've been in an abusive, controlling relationship and I remember lying about where I'd parked the car (because if it wasn't in a place where he thought it should be I'd be in trouble), I remember lying about how much clothes I'd bought cost, what I'd spent my day doing etc, etc, etc....
If you feel as if you have to lie to someone to 'keep the peace' then something is seriously wrong with the relationship. The fact that this controlling behaviour is about tarot is irrelevant really.