Lenormand deck

Winterchild

Beginner

If this is in the wrong place feel free to redirect me.

I am a total beginner with Lenormand of any kind. While I have a couple of decks, I have avoided the whole thing on the whole as there is so much advice it's hard to know what to be guided by.

I have some basic questions...

How do we choose the card that signifies the querent? is it always the woman or the man?

What is the dofference between the Grand and the Petit Lenormand

Is the Petit Etteilla a Lenormand deck?

Forgive my ignorance here. I am an old hand at Tarot and AT so figured this was the best place to ask!

Thanks

Winter