berrieh
KCB said:I had been thinking about a post on questions but as this one is going i will park mine for a bit and see what happens. my response applies to readings where I am paying someone. I think its a bit odd the way readers are a) expected to proceed with no information or b) prefer to proceed with no information. You would not show up anywhere, your lawyer, lecturer, doctor, etc and sit there mute and make them guess.
Questions are useful tools, but I understand sitters not wanting to give out too much information to a Tarot reader, if they've come for a fortune telling/divination or psychic reading. (If it were a counseling exercise or something, well, then...okay. But be sure it's advertised that way!)
How can the reader and sitter confirm the connection if everything the sitter knows is revealed? Why shouldn't the sitter expect a reader to...well, divine information, since that's what the service generally is?
I don't expect my lawyer to be psychic, but I do expect him to know the law and be able to perform legal tasks without my assistance (filing, litigating, etc)! I don't expect my doctor to be psychic, but I do expect my surgeon to do the surgery without me holding the retractor!
Perhaps this goes to whether or not you believe a reader is sharing knowledge of card meanings or performing a divination of some sort. I could teach someone the cards even if I had all the information, but I couldn't really divine. Most sitters don't give two hoots about the card or my body of knowledge; they just want to confirmation, connection, and answers to their questions.
I like questions well enough, but I certainly understand why a sitter might be leery in giving any information out. And, while information doesn't particularly hurt my ability anymore, I get why it could disrupt someone who separates their logical and intuitive sides. Personally, I use logic while divining...because logical framework is what lets me see card connections; so, I don't shut down that side anyway.