bladeraven
whew...well..had two friends come over for a reading...and it was really great...got my tarot juices flowing again...and it was great readings but it was a case where you picked up a difference in ...attitude...
Both were career oriented readings about returning to work...Person A and Person B both got the same spread but different readings...and now I'm just beside myself with worry about "impressions" of how they perceive me.
I'm not use to "being out of the closet" about Tarot reading, but was a bit..thank you for asking me, I don't mind, and so I did the reading like I normally did...All Happy Happy Joy Joy.
Well...after I got finish with the reading for Person A, Person B, grabbed a book of Tarot I had and looked up the meanings and proceed to tell Person A, after I gave "A" her reading, what the spread I just did meant.
I just sat back, and I think my jaw dropped, and went...okay this is pretty rude...discuss is one thing but why first ask if they could come "visit" then "oh can you do a reading for us" then not only have already had done readings prior to arrival but basically pick apart my reading....
I polietely responded, "usually I have the Tarot book out for those who need to "control" the situation and feel comfortable looking up my readings if they don't understand what I just did, however, the books should not be taken as a literal bible."
Person B, waved me off with "oh I know that' and proceeded to read off to Person A, the "meaning of what was just read" card by card...
Person B, I was "teaching" indirectly how to read cards and from what I understand, she had given Person A a reading before they showed up and she "kinda forget to tell me that"...well...this wasn't known to me until after I did a reading for Person A about the same "question" and then afterwards, Person B went...oh hey..that's what I got.
I gave her this odd look...that basically looked like.."what?"
She then insisted since she read it in the book how "tarot got started" and explain to Person A about the "facts" that she read, and I tried to gently correct her that there isn't an exact known origin, and she basically waved me off...and then when Person B started to talk about spreads, "Oh I used a past/present/future spread so why is your's different." I thought to myself, "Bloody hickory, not really a good timingto ask me."
I tried to explain that it's not just past/present/future and the 3 cards are more symbolic of other queries sometimes...and I got another wave of the hand.
So I was stuck in this awkward position of having to explain to her...3 cards doesn't always mean just past/present/future, with Person A now looking VERY embarrass like..why did I consent to this...
To top it off....Oh it was just a lovely afternoon....I begin to really figure out why Person B got knight of swords...she is too excitable, doesn't really think before she acts and just doesn't get the whole picture.
I'm thinking Person A was definetely embarrassed...she was quick to leave, and I really picked up emotionally that she was not comfortable and just embarassed.
It's like suddenly Person B was "all knowing of Tarot" because of this one little book I lent her and wouldn't listen to the "warnings" I was giving her regarding readings.
I joked with Person B later and said we really need to set some time to do some readings so I can teach her and she was all chippy..."yep we do" and I'm thinking..."No, really, I need to teach you what Tarot is really about...it's like driving a car..there is a right way and a wrong way and you're doing it the "slap me silly" way..."
Meanwhile Person A was a quick..."BYE" and her minivan did everything but screeched out of the parking lot...I was surprised not to see smoke coming out of the exhaust from how fast she pulled out and left.
I felt a bit insulted so to speak that I was usually like a "test subject"...if she had done a reading for herself and Person A...don't call me up and come over for just that, it really bugged me she "already" did a reading and I guess was confirming theirs?? I had images of them sitting around in pj's with fluffy pink slippers and giggling who would kiss who..'Course I made a mistake talking about a reading that was done for my pregnancy and my eardrums nearly burst from the unanimous "do her" squeal they both emitted at the sound o of that (Person A was also pregnant...God help me)
I politely went..oh, I dont' have that spread with me...I need to uhm...email the midwife who did the spread for me, yes that's it, and when she sends me the spread she uses, I'll email you (referring to Person A) personally and we can do this one and one (particularly so Person B WON'T be present..one more squeal and I would have gone over...she's a great friend..just clueless about Tarot)
...Needless to say...they both gave me a strange look and I'm basically...whatever...I have kids of my own...I have dinner to still prepare...I don't do mass readings for the same person over and over or back to back IN THE SAME DAY.
It's like suddenly since it's known I do tarot..I'm the "It" girl....hello...I start getting referrals...I'm just going to start charging...LOL.
I knew if I talked about energy and needing to limit reading time...they would just have given me blank looks and I would have had to pray to the Poopy God that the baby would have a BIG, fat, stinky, poopy diaper so I could slink away...I think if I hadn't said I had to email the spread...I would have been stuck in that chair, blood pouring from my ears from the squeal and my eyeballs falling out....
Hmmm...guess I would have been ready for Halloween on the other hand...Oh hickory sticks..hope they dont' know I do readings on Halloween....
I felt like a show monkey and was curious...how does one handle situations like this...There's a limit when it goes from being a nice friend to just plain "I'm not your Tarot Reader for disposable use".
Both were career oriented readings about returning to work...Person A and Person B both got the same spread but different readings...and now I'm just beside myself with worry about "impressions" of how they perceive me.
I'm not use to "being out of the closet" about Tarot reading, but was a bit..thank you for asking me, I don't mind, and so I did the reading like I normally did...All Happy Happy Joy Joy.
Well...after I got finish with the reading for Person A, Person B, grabbed a book of Tarot I had and looked up the meanings and proceed to tell Person A, after I gave "A" her reading, what the spread I just did meant.
I just sat back, and I think my jaw dropped, and went...okay this is pretty rude...discuss is one thing but why first ask if they could come "visit" then "oh can you do a reading for us" then not only have already had done readings prior to arrival but basically pick apart my reading....
I polietely responded, "usually I have the Tarot book out for those who need to "control" the situation and feel comfortable looking up my readings if they don't understand what I just did, however, the books should not be taken as a literal bible."
Person B, waved me off with "oh I know that' and proceeded to read off to Person A, the "meaning of what was just read" card by card...
Person B, I was "teaching" indirectly how to read cards and from what I understand, she had given Person A a reading before they showed up and she "kinda forget to tell me that"...well...this wasn't known to me until after I did a reading for Person A about the same "question" and then afterwards, Person B went...oh hey..that's what I got.
I gave her this odd look...that basically looked like.."what?"
She then insisted since she read it in the book how "tarot got started" and explain to Person A about the "facts" that she read, and I tried to gently correct her that there isn't an exact known origin, and she basically waved me off...and then when Person B started to talk about spreads, "Oh I used a past/present/future spread so why is your's different." I thought to myself, "Bloody hickory, not really a good timingto ask me."
I tried to explain that it's not just past/present/future and the 3 cards are more symbolic of other queries sometimes...and I got another wave of the hand.
So I was stuck in this awkward position of having to explain to her...3 cards doesn't always mean just past/present/future, with Person A now looking VERY embarrass like..why did I consent to this...
To top it off....Oh it was just a lovely afternoon....I begin to really figure out why Person B got knight of swords...she is too excitable, doesn't really think before she acts and just doesn't get the whole picture.
I'm thinking Person A was definetely embarrassed...she was quick to leave, and I really picked up emotionally that she was not comfortable and just embarassed.
It's like suddenly Person B was "all knowing of Tarot" because of this one little book I lent her and wouldn't listen to the "warnings" I was giving her regarding readings.
I joked with Person B later and said we really need to set some time to do some readings so I can teach her and she was all chippy..."yep we do" and I'm thinking..."No, really, I need to teach you what Tarot is really about...it's like driving a car..there is a right way and a wrong way and you're doing it the "slap me silly" way..."
Meanwhile Person A was a quick..."BYE" and her minivan did everything but screeched out of the parking lot...I was surprised not to see smoke coming out of the exhaust from how fast she pulled out and left.
I felt a bit insulted so to speak that I was usually like a "test subject"...if she had done a reading for herself and Person A...don't call me up and come over for just that, it really bugged me she "already" did a reading and I guess was confirming theirs?? I had images of them sitting around in pj's with fluffy pink slippers and giggling who would kiss who..'Course I made a mistake talking about a reading that was done for my pregnancy and my eardrums nearly burst from the unanimous "do her" squeal they both emitted at the sound o of that (Person A was also pregnant...God help me)
I politely went..oh, I dont' have that spread with me...I need to uhm...email the midwife who did the spread for me, yes that's it, and when she sends me the spread she uses, I'll email you (referring to Person A) personally and we can do this one and one (particularly so Person B WON'T be present..one more squeal and I would have gone over...she's a great friend..just clueless about Tarot)
...Needless to say...they both gave me a strange look and I'm basically...whatever...I have kids of my own...I have dinner to still prepare...I don't do mass readings for the same person over and over or back to back IN THE SAME DAY.
It's like suddenly since it's known I do tarot..I'm the "It" girl....hello...I start getting referrals...I'm just going to start charging...LOL.
I knew if I talked about energy and needing to limit reading time...they would just have given me blank looks and I would have had to pray to the Poopy God that the baby would have a BIG, fat, stinky, poopy diaper so I could slink away...I think if I hadn't said I had to email the spread...I would have been stuck in that chair, blood pouring from my ears from the squeal and my eyeballs falling out....
Hmmm...guess I would have been ready for Halloween on the other hand...Oh hickory sticks..hope they dont' know I do readings on Halloween....
I felt like a show monkey and was curious...how does one handle situations like this...There's a limit when it goes from being a nice friend to just plain "I'm not your Tarot Reader for disposable use".