Chiriku
There is absolutely no anguish or angst in my realization that people disagree with me, Chiriku, just surprise at the fact that a 5.000 year-old archetype of sexual love means something different to so many people..
If you are talking about the Adam and Eve story, I have explained in my most recent post that a fairly significant force in Christendom does not view that story as "an archetype of sexual love." I have quite a bit of schooling in Roman Catholic theology, as well (though not as much as in my own Western Protestant tradition)but at the moment I'm drawing a mental blank on RC ideas of Adam and Eve. Perhaps they are more sexually-tinged and perhaps you, as someone with a background in a RC-majority country, have absorbed this view.
But the point is that all religious traditions are in essence cultural systems and that the interpretations of sacred texts are inevitably filtered through our own cultural lenses. Hence, it is not surprising that a story that is mostly about God, Choice and Free Will to some people may be more about sexuality to others. This natural multiplicity of cultural system and interpretation is reflected in the many denominations and sects of the various world religions.
But not all tarot systems even assign Adam and Eve to The Lovers to begin with. In fact, I still take a Choice- and Duality-centric view of the card based on some of the older, ostensibly non-esoteric renderings of this tarot card.
As LRichard pointed out, this type of view doesn't preclude references to a relationship or situation that is sexual in nature. It just means that we don't turn over The Lovers and think, "Ah! Sexual love, sexual choice, sexual whatever." I would have to do some mental twists and turns--which is the stuff of every meaty and significant tarot reading, IMO--in order to get to lust...which I would not have to do if I had turned over some other cards I associate more readily with sexuality.