Gee, Let's not get defensive.
I think my perspective is in line with Scorpion's
Scorpion said:
Definitely not a problem to me on a personal level. However, a lot of readings concern love or relationships and it gets tiresome to talk of "they" when you're not sure of a client's sexuality
Being gay, bi, transgendered, whatever is not about being "other" or "otherwise" or "having a problem".
As a pro reader it may be my problem to discern my clients sexual oriention, just to look good. My expectation for myself as a fab reader is to be able to tell them not only that there is a new romance on their horizon, but what that person is like in personality, appearance, and at least gender.
Sometimes the cards will tell you:
A gal that had been in some of my classes was living with her female partner for a few years while I knew her. Several years after we had lost contact I did a reading for her at a psychic fair. The reading was shouting "new love relationship" And a couple indicators, a King and the Emperor as an influence coming in suggested a man. I tried to talk around these indicators with "a masculine person", etc. Until the client simply told me, "It is a man that I am in love with this time".
Or the 50 something gent whose reading has 6 out of 10 cards Majors. Moon, World, Justice, Judgement. I'm talking to him about significant decisions, reflecting on his past, emotional sensitivity, health concerns. I got close enough for him to talk about how he was looking into getting a sex change.
Or the reading I had where the reader tried to tell me that I was gay. I felt she was so missing me that I turned off to the entire reading. And 20 yrs later I can confirm that yes she was wrong.
As a reader it is the similar problem to the young woman with a large belly and average shape otherwise. Is she pregnant? Do I just ask? Or risk being wrong and blowing the reading. Well if I get the Empress and an Ace or 2 I may have to risk talking about her impending motherhood. If she is sure she is not pregnant I can appologize and not take her cash!
The multi-gender, sexual orientation issue may or may not be a concern for the querant. But it is a minor concern for me 'cause I would rather not ask, I would rather "look good" and be able to intuit where my client is at.
Many people go to me who do not want to talk much about themselves. They want me to tell them everything. For these clients I do not give them a, "this is a process that will work best with a mutual open flow of energy and communication blah,blah ". I respect their perspective and do my best without their input.
But that's just me.