GryffinSong said:
No one, and I mean NO ONE, has a right to make you get rid of your cards. If a boyfriend truly puts that kind of a condition on your relationship, then he does not deserve you. Seriously. That kind of control is abusive.
Now that I have that out of my system ...
I agree and now I need to get it out of my system.
I am sorry Cutie but you should have stood your ground. No lying.... white or otherwise. Respect is the most important thing in a relationship. Respect, trust and integrity. These are what qualify a strong relationship not love. Love without respect isn't real love.
For him to demand that of you is disrespectful! I would have laughed and told him that he was being silly and this is a part of my life. Period end of discussion. I would have continued with..... if you would like to discuss Tarot I would be more than happy to teach you about it.
When I met my husband he was wary of the cards but he would never have dreamed of demanding anything of me. We don't demand. Demanding is disrespectful and stomps all over the person! He accepted me as is and I him. He grew to understand Tarot and divination and respect the whole process. He enjoys looking at a new deck. He supports me reading professionally which I began 4 years ago during our marriage. Now he even asks for a reading!
I mean it isn't a daily thing... maybe he has done it a handful of times in the 11 years I have known him but the first time he did I laughed so hard and said YOU WANT WHAT????? He said YUP pull them out and tell me about xyz!
My Mother was upset about another of my hobbies and demanded that I stop. I told her point blank that it wasn't up for discussion. She still tries to no avail.
The thing is you need to be true to yourself. It isn't about the cards it is about living a life of integrity, respect and truth.
Going forward ..... I would open a discussion about respect, trust and integrity with him..... and explain what tarot etc mean to you and how you feel about it and explore how he feels about it. If he can't understand - well for me that would have been a deal breaker.....but you need to decide what is right for you.
Blessings